Stop underestimating yourself. NOW.

I keep stating that I don’t want this blog to turn into a whiney, pity party. However, when things go wrong it is hard to not use this as a way to ventilate. I would much rather ventilate on paper as opposed to a real human, but I’m going to give this post a motivational aspect.

If you read my previous post (probably not though lol) I had a job interview which I think went badly. However, on speaking to my Dad about what was said and what I felt I did wrong he gave me some encouraging words of advice. I was dwelling on the negatives, the recruiter straight up pointed out my lack of societies and clubs and all that stuff. All the typical things they drive hard into you at school and university in order for you to secure a job- but I don’t value pouring my time into things when I don’t have a genuine interest in them. I did attend a few society groups in passing, but not as a committed member, so I don’t feature these things on my CV. For example: skiing society (which simply baffled me how they acted like a bunch of 18 year olds who’d never had a drink in their entire life, and they constantly randomly chanted), organising Pangaea (I’m awful at art so anything I made would definitely have been criticised, and the bookings team was full of so many aspiring Manc DJs who apparently had superior music taste to my own), and then I did attend the trading society a couple of times but it was at an awkward conflicting time for me so I couldn’t make it that often.

I previously mentioned when asked what I did instead at uni my reply was ‘umm going out’ which totally provides the wrong connotations. When I say going out I don’t mean clubbing (it does make up some part of it) but also: eating out in restaurants, going to the theatre, going to concerts which in my brain really are just aspects under the title of ‘going out’. If I had phrased this as ‘I’m not going to lie societies and clubs really aren’t my thing, but I believe that I am well cultured individual which is demonstrated by things that I do instead of societies’ it would have looked better. So I’ve learnt it’s important to expand on what you mean and spell things out for people so it’s clear to them. Assume everyone around you is dumb basically….

In addition to this, I got asked how I pay for going out if I didn’t have a job during my term time. I wasn’t going to lie I was fortunate enough to have my Dad help me out with rent and my loan was used for living, plus I worked during my holidays. I still work with my temporary agency so he asked if I’d worked recently. My response no because I’d been on holiday, but before that I worked for two weeks straight. He didn’t look too impressed by this and I felt a bit confused because I meant back to back Monday to Sunday. Again, thanks to my older and wiser father pointing out he most definitely assumed Monday to Friday. I’ve concluded that next time I need to emphasise 14 days straight and that this isn’t a rare occurrence. Which is true, I do have a good work ethic when it comes to making money for things I like. For example, I worked many days straight in order to pay for my mini back packing trip around South East Asia last summer.

Speaking of my trip to Asia, I like to think I’m quite well travelled for a 21 year old! My Dad warned me to be careful not to sound boastful, but he reminded me that I have experienced some awesome things. For example: EdgeWalk at the CN tower in Toronto, Zip2000 in Sun City, the Stratosphere Thrill rides, getting to fly a small plane and my family friends gyrocopter. These unique things add to my adventurous personality and make me me. So why concentrate on stuff I haven’t done, which turns into negative self doubting thoughts, when I should be talking about the unique things that I have done in my life! It’s definitely time to change the way I think about stuff that’s happened in my past!

My overall point is that what my CV lacks in achievements I like to think that I can make up for in character, personality and drive. Even now I’m still reading over this and doubting if that will hold up and impress an interviewer? At the end of the day though someone out there will hire me. I think if like me you don’t really have a plan post graduation it’s so important not to beat ourselves up with negative thoughts about not knowing what to do. We have time to figure out what we want to do and let the course of things pan out at whatever speed it takes.

Things to take away are:

  1. Think about how you phrase certain things. You need to spell it out for people because your lingo isn’t necessarily their lingo.
  2. Don’t undersell yourself- you definitely have a unique story and set of experiences that is worth something.
  3. If you have a genuine hunger to make something more out of yourself you can prove that in different ways. Focus on what you have done whatever it may be and not what you haven’t done.
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